There is a dark side of loving yourself that no one ever talks about…
Self love isn’t just about loving yourself blindly. It isn’t about shining a light on the dark parts of your psyche. It ain’t about ‘staying positive.’
Matt Kahn, an inspirational leader and huge influence of mine, says “love what arises.” And he’s right! Create space for whatever it is that comes up. Give your inner child a voice to be heard. A safe place to be felt. Just sit in silence and listen to your inner voice…
👁️Don’t judge what comes up.
👁️It’s not there to be fixed.
👁️S/he just wants to be understood.
I’m inspired to share something with you from my journey. As a very young child, I learned to hate myself. Yes, hate myself. In the past. Just to be accepted. Basically, everyone else was doing it (from the perspective of my childhood mind that didn’t know better at the time), so I did too. That’s social conditioning in a nutshell. I was responding to my environment at that time.
The environment may be different, but we all experience social conditioning in life. It’s just how we learn.
By following what I believed at the time to be the social norm, I created the energetic environment for my epigenetics to respond. Epigenetics is how genes are switched on or off in response to your environment. In the past, I switched on a gene that sent signals to my immune system to attack myself.
To this day, my immune system doesn’t remember how to cycle down. A normal immune system has on and off cycles to regulate itself. Mine got stuck, resulting in chronic pain and fatigue, brain fog, and difficulty concentrating. And now I know why thanks to a huge breakthrough…
I never would have gotten this insight from ‘staying positive.’
Instead, I stayed real.
I listened while rising above the past challenges to get the higher lesson. Social conditioning can affect your epigenetics to send signals to your body matching your beliefs at the time. And all it takes is self awareness to get through it.
That’s why I’m here to help. It’s literally what made me a healer. And on my journey of healing I’ve helped countless others overcome trauma, emotional blockage, and limiting beliefs and decisions. This was a limiting decision. That’s all. But it’s affected me nearly my entire life.
So just in case nobody has told you yet today, it’s ok to be different.
🧚It’s ok to be you.
🧚It’s ok to experience your full spectrum of feelings.
🧚You are safe and protected.
See how that creates a new environment that allows for growth now? That’s why I love science!
PS dm me for the breakthrough (hint: strawberry cake) or if you just want to chat.
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