Blunt Force Truth: Some people don’t let others get past their past.
If you hold people to their past, what then is behind this within you that you’re not letting yourself get past?
This is the key: Forgiveness, not only for others, but for yourself. The only way someone would hold another person to their past is if they didn’t let themselves live past their own past. Yes there’s pain. Yes, there’s trauma. And a lot of limiting beliefs and decisions all pointing back to something inside that so many people are just plain afraid to face.
Until they learn this.
The thing is, you’re not that person anymore. Whomever you were in the past is gone. You’re still here. And you get to choose how to move forward. Do that. Because that’s the first step towards self-forgiveness. Then forgive those who hurt you, no matter how fucking hard it seems. It’s you that’s being freed, after all. And notice how easy it is to always remember, love yourself through it.
Now as you look at those around you, do you remember how they’ve hurt you or others in the past, or do you want to see them for good too? Maybe you can look at their own past and see that they too were hurting and acting the best they could with the limited resources they had at the time. Nobody’s prefect.
So give compassion.
Give unconditional love.
And give forgiveness.
First for yourself, and then for everyone else.
Don’t hold people to their past–they’re not the same person anymore. And neither are you.
Now you get to choose what you perceive about others, not by the limiting beliefs you once had, but by the freedom you now have and give.
Do that, and people are going to surprise you with awesomeness.
=D