Blunt Force Truth: When a person shares their truth with you, there is very little chance that their story changes.
What does change however, is your understanding of their truth and the story you create for you two based on how your subconscious mind maps your reality.
You filter their truth to create the story you tell yourself based on your own expectations, attachments, and unresolved issues from the past.
It’s just like the initial stages of seeing someone in a relationship. Typically people don’t see others as they are, they see the other as they want them to be. Only after time do we realize that they’ve changed–but they didn’t–only your understanding of them did.
Your subconscious mind created filters to see just what you wanted to see, and as that facade started crumbling away, that’s when you started seeing the real person. They didn’t change. And most likely, neither did their truth.
You gotta clear yourself of past hurt and trauma, attachments, and expectations to see them for who they are.
And you gotta align your core values with theirs to truly understand what it is that you desire and they desire, to see if you’re going on the same direction together.
But until you do the work on yourself, you’re just gonna see this repeated again and again. People are gonna keep “changing.”
But they’re not.
Only your perception, understanding, and the stories you create of them are what changes.
Until you wake up.
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